I believe in Neurodiversity, I believe there are a lot of positives to being Autistic, but I don’t believe in the gag order some of the Neurodiversity lobby are trying to guilt us into. Living with a person who is neck deep in all the darker aspects of Autism as a disorder is hard.
And I am sick of it!
Yesterday my husband and I engaged in a lively discussion; you know the ones that start with me yelling and end with me crying and take me out of useful work for a minimum 12 hours. It started with my asking advice about my computer mouse. Here is a precis substituting autistic for common symptoms that we know we have.
L: ‘Didn’t you say there was a button that could fix this?’
G: Autistic response with a dash of male.
L: Anxiety/Autistic Response.
Repeat 3 times.
Resolution of computer problem.
L: ‘I can’t take you ‘being autistic”
G: Autistic response
L: (20 minute Screamed monologue) You do this autistic thing and this autistic thing all the time and I can’t stand it. I have to deal with Tabby being autistic and Alex being autistic and Tasha being autistic and ADD. I am close to a breakdown because my autism is out of control. And I get blamed by people for the autistic things you guys all do. (Crying uncontrollably)
G: ‘Well at least you got this out and now we can deal with it’
L:’We have this argument quite regularly, we had it a month ago with the kids. You will have an autistic reaction and I will have an autistic reaction with a guilt edge.’
G: ‘I have to go to drive some of our children to a place to try to reduce their autism, unlikely to work, but at least it reduces your guilt.’
L: Autistic psychosomatic reaction.
Etcetera ad infinitum.