OMG, GTH With Your PDA.

I was in the shower this morning thinking. Now this is unusual, thinking anywhere, even the shower. It was probably because I didn't have my usual audience. My regulars: Orion was mad because I took him out of the shower before I turned on the water. I'm not mean I had to let the hot … Continue reading OMG, GTH With Your PDA.

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Dark Thoughts – Truth and Communication

Few people will speak the truth because no one can hear the truth. Words are filtered through our own prejudices, education and an emotional veil that shimmers and shifts with every fleeting mood. Correction becomes condemnation so honeyed praise is heaped on, sweetness to help the medicine go down.  But the honeyed words are too … Continue reading Dark Thoughts – Truth and Communication

The cognitive dissonance of “person-first” references to #autistic people

I have just read this & realised there is no better way of expressing this important message.

And Now... For My Next Trick!

two people arguing, face-to-face, pointing fingers at each other What you call us matters. Please choose your words mindfully.

There seems to be a persistent tendency for people to use “person-first” references to autistic people.

That’s unfortunate. I’m sure the intention is to affirm the humanity of the person (separate from the disorder/condition), which I suppose is noble in its own way.

But what it really does is make us autistic folks out to be “suffering” from something that — if only it were eradicated and removed from us — would restore us to wholeness. Make us just like everyone else.

I’ll spare you my rant about that. Let me use another means to illustrate how person-first autism language makes me feel, as someone who considers autism my default mode, and who would be made less-whole, not more, if “it” were removed from my self.

Identity is a tricky business. We all have our perceptions of ourselves, our understandings…

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